• Things

    Date: 2011.04.29 | Category: Uncategorized | Tags: ,,,,,

    Ok so I lied. I’m sorry. If it helps I didn’t mean to and the following post pushed itself into my head.

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    Things

    I always inherently want to title every post “Things” because that’s all this really is. My list of 3 things that mean nothing in a way that they’ll never start a revolution or be the deciding factor on whether or not a suspected culprit of a crime should live. They are just my sweet nothings, my meanderings. My jumbled bits of thought that aren’t even noticed by more than possibly 5 people–including myself. So the following  are what I consider one MUST accept as true (at least one) to be a better part of society.

    1. Acceptance of one’s sexuality and therefore the sexuality of others. I really think once you get past the “sex is bad and you’re bad too if you have it” mentality you’ll find that taking pleasure in a pleasurable thing is perfectly natural. Once you understand that is really is just part of life you’ll find yourself able to put down your judgmental gavel and be able to open up to the beauty of two people making one another happy, be it the act of intercourse or sharing a smile and a joke. Now I’m not saying that you should fill your life with erotic images or make sure every word that comes from your mouth has a double entente. Just let yourself find what it is that makes you happy and you’ll learn that self acceptance often branches into acceptance of others. Really, the world would be simpler if people thought of sexual preferences as different types of light fixtures. To my knowledge, no one has been brutally attacked over a sconce.

    2. Religion is not fact, it is faith. I was brought up in a Southern Baptist home (well from birth to 2nd grade and then 5th grade to 12th). I had many a moment where I personally condemned others for not following what I had believed was right. I still follow many of the Baptists beliefs (i.e. personal relationship with God, Jesus is God’s son and my savior, every sin is equal in God’s eyes) but with one significant difference: I know that I have no proof that this established set of beliefs is the correct one. For all we know there really is a flying spaghetti monster in charge of all the cosmos and its chosen people are the Italians–or maybe not because the Italians helped spread the love of consuming pasta. Perhaps it prefers  the Inuits. Maybe there is in fact nothing out there. What I do know is that I choose to believe that there is a God watching over me. I need to have a superior being helping me through my mess of a life. Others may not. Once I got it through my holier-than-thou brain that a belief is not fact, I found it easier to be compassionate and accepting of others. Faith is believing in something regardless of lack of data. Also, yes, faith is a choice. I find nothing wrong in sharing ideas found in ones faith. I do disagree with ANY religious prosecution. If you want to worship your Xbox 36o or the gods depicted in Norse mythology, then that is your prerogative. Really every religion is a mythology to someone–which is a universal truth just like water is the universal solvent and that young, single, rich men in the 18th century are in want of a wife. (Desperately hoping my few readers get that reference.)

    3. Everyone is special. Trust me, I don’t mean that in the puffy cloudy way that you’re thinking and I’m not stating that while my hair is in pigtails, a seemingly plastic smile is planted on my face, and I’m handing out lolli pops to everyone–although I do like to give sugary treats to my friends. What I mean to say is that every single living thing has something different to contribute. Taking a short survey at my old job you would find: a person who can make an entire room fill with laughter as easily as taking a breath, someone who is a support system for everyone, someone who doesn’t mind taking a second from all the things that need to be done to show you how to do something, and someone who has a flare for making everything around her beautiful. If people could just stop, step out of whatever emotions they are feeling and see what is unique about that person, what they have to give in a way that only they can give, then an appreciation for the people around us would surely become the dominant feeling. Cliche sayings like: “you never know what you missing until it’s gone” will become archaic and obsolete if we did take that moment and understand exactly why everyone is special. This also means that no one is better than anyone else because we all have something different to offer.

    I guess I’m getting a little preachy, but these are lessons that I’ve had to take in order to become a better person I am now instead of the person I was before. Now, I will tell you right now that I am more flawed than a cheap diamond or an application of lipstick while riding a roller coaster, so don’t think I pretend I’m not. I’m proud, lazy, and extremely stubborn, but I have had personal growth in areas that really seem to matter once I’ve accepted these lessons.